Interview with Kabbaway

Kabbaway (she/fae/them) is a queer gamer and aspiring writer. I asked her about fem and their content, as well as content fae’s been enjoying recently. You can check out Kabbaway at the links at the end of the interview.

  1. What queer terminology do you use for yourself publicly? Do not feel pressured to come out as anything in your answer. Please only disclose whatever you’re comfortable with.
    • I’ve questioned my sexual/romantic orientation for as long as I can remember, and from 2016 up until last year identified as a gay ciswoman. However, my understanding of my sexuality has since evolved and now I identify as omni (-sexual and -romantic), although I also use queer/gay. I’m also demi (-sexual and -romantic).
    • My gender identity has always kinda taken a backseat to my sexuality, but I’ve never felt like I fit into society’s binary gender roles and I’ve recently found that I don’t quite relate to most non-binary identities either. As an AFAB person I have a lot of trauma relating to my body and how I was heavily gendered by the people around me growing up (especially having done a lot of performing arts stuff), which has resulted in me questioning my gender identity more critically over the last year. A few days ago, a close friend discussed egogender (their gender identity) and I found that the idea that one’s gender can be personalised really resonated with me – I’m still working through it, but at the moment I’m using charagender (a synonym for egogender) and use she/them pronouns.
  2. What non-queer demographic terminology do you use for yourself? Again, please only disclose whatever you’re comfortable with.
    • In a similar strand to sexual/romantic orientation, I’ve recently discovered that I’m polyamorous and have embraced that through having two partners – an agender (they/them) fiancé and a long distance boyfriend (he/him).
    • I’ve also found that I strongly resonate with most of the symptoms for ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), and consider myself autistic/neurodivergent. I’m currently in the process of being formally diagnosed, as well as (finally) going to therapy for a number of mental health issues including trauma, depression and anxiety.
  3. What projects are you involved in? This can be any type of content you’d like to promote.
    • I have a YouTube channel where I make miscellaneous content including music, vlogs and tributes, although most of it revolves around gaming and related video essays. I’ve found a bit of a niche audience in Final Fantasy VII and The Legend of Zelda fans, so I’m very likely to keep making content related to those franchises especially.
    • My content is not only a creative outlet but an emotional one as well – I’ve kinda learned to mask and filter my thoughts/feelings in social interactions due to anxiety, so being able to passionately react to a game and externalise my feelings in a safe environment is very cathartic for me!
    • I would very much love to make a career out of my channel but I’ve struggled with content quality since I’ve only had an iPad and iMovie (and recently a microphone) at my disposal, so I’m currently trying to save up for software/equipment which will make my videos more professional-looking.
  4. What do you enjoy doing when you’re not creating content?
    • I have a strong passion and spiritual connection with nature, which I channel through practising green witchcraft.
    • I also love learning about animals and would love to work in a zoo one day.
    • I enjoy listening to music from just about any genre (except things like dubstep since the sound effects cause sensory issues for me).
    • Watching movies/shows with loved ones is one of my favourite pastimes – we especially like to watch fantasy, sci-fi, action and comedy media as well as nature/animal documentaries.
    • Writing is one of my biggest passions and I’m currently working on drafting a fantasy novel which has been in the planning stages for the best part of 8 years.
  5. What does the queer community needs to do better about understanding, accepting, and supporting?
    • I think that we as a community should try and avoid gatekeeping each other over labels so much, as it can be extremely invalidating and stressful feeling like you don’t even belong in your own community. Everyone has different relationships with labels, so we should do our best to be accomodating of that and not think our labels are somehow invalidated by someone else having a different interpretation of them.
    • I think we should also try our best to be patient and understanding with cishet people and focus more on whether a person has or is willing to change rather than immediately “cancelling” someone for simply saying something anti-queer in the past; if they have shown no remorse or growth from their past actions then I can understand why the queer community would be upset at them, but if they’ve apologised and have put in the effort to consistently avoid making the same mistakes I don’t think they should be permanently defined by their old opinions.
  6. What are you excited about going forward? Can be anything from creative projects, personal or professional milestones, etc.
    • I’m currently at 391 Kabbabs (subscribers) and can’t wait to hit the 400 milestone. At 1,000 I’ll be doing a face reveal, which will broaden my content opportunities and allow my audience to form a better connection with me as a person!
    • My fiancé and I were meant to get married at the start of August, but due to COVID and health issues we’ve postponed our wedding to next year which we’re both very excited for.
  7. Are there any pets or plants in your life?
    • We have a 13 year old cat named Owen who enjoys sleeping at our feet on the bed every night. We were specifically after an older or disabled cat since these types of pets are sadly less likely to be adopted. We got him as a sort of birthday present for my fiancé in January, and he’s been an absolute delight.
    • We also have some chickens and cows on the property as well as a few house plants which make me very happy when I see them.
  8. What content / content creators have you been enjoying recently? This could be anything from books, to podcasts, to tutorial videos, etc. Anything you want other people to know about.
    • I have a bit of an eclectic mix of content I like but some of my favourite content creators include Dan and Phil, MacDoesIt, The Queer Kiwi, HearthWitch and CallMeKevin.
    • VortexxyGaming (Rest in Peace) remains a huge inspiration for my Zelda content as well as my desire to create more gaming video essays in general.
  9. What is your favorite thing about yourself?
    • I’ve really struggled with self-image for over half my life, but I guess the best answer I can give is that I’m always trying my best to be self-aware and improve on myself where possible. I admit that sometimes I can be funny, and it makes me really happy to think that people can find enjoyment in my personality and my content.

Kabbaway can be found on youtube and twitter, as well as all the sites in their linktree. Fae can also be monetarily supported on ko-fi.

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