This year, February 21-27 was Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week: a whole week to celebrate arospecs! So all month long, every Friday, I made art inspired by an arospec orientation. And during the week itself, I released a piece daily. Lastly, I made a digital quilt that compiles all of this year’s arospec art together, which I released on the 28th.
February, especially Valentine’s Day, brings a lot of pressure to conform to alloromantic norms, so it’s important to be extra supportive of arospecs at this time. We’re even erased by the wider queer community too, so please do your best to be a great ally for us. And one way you can do that is by learning different arospec experiences, and from different arospec people.
Without further ado, the art.

inspired by the arospec flag!

inspired by the current aromantic flag!

Demiromantic.
“someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone.”

Frayromantic.
“when someone only experiences romantic attraction towards those that they are not deeply connected with, and lose that attraction as they get to know the person.”

Nebularomantic.
“unable to distinguish the difference between romantic and platonic attraction… due to one’s status as neurodivergent.”
neurotypical counterpart: platoniromantic.
closely related: idemromantic.
I’ve known about neurogenders for a while now, and those are super cool. So learning about neuro-orientations was like “oh yes, of course neurotype can affect your orientation(s) too!” People like me have our own branch of queerness! ^-^ And we have wiki pages! It makes me very happy.

Caedromantic.
“someone who feels that they were, at one point alloromantic, but that has been taken or ‘cut away’ from them due to past trauma.”

Requisromantic.
“someone who has limited or no romantic attraction, interest, or activity due to some form of emotional exhaustion.”




Arospike.
“someone who usually feels no romantic attraction, but occasionally has rare and sudden spikes of romantic attraction for an amount of time that can vary from a day to a couple of months before returning to one’s normal amounts of aromanticism”.




These four pieces were inspired by an older, yellow-striped aromantic flag.
The reason we use the white-striped flag now instead of this one is because yellow can cause people sensory issues; and pride needs to include everybody, not just neurotypical people. Ableist queers can fuck right off.




Recipromantic.
“someone who does not experience romantic attraction unless they know that the other person is romantically attracted to them first.”




Grayromantic
“those who relate with aromanticism, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren’t fully described by the word aromantic.”

Arospec people are queer, period! We do not need another queer identity to be queer. We are queer just by virtue of being arospec.
If you exclude arospec people from the queer community, you’re excluding me too. And I’m way more queer than you’ll ever be 😛!
I generally just call myself aro or arospec since I’m satisfied with those labels; but I could specify that further with nebularomantic and occasional bouts of requisromanticism. I’m very demiromantic too. It takes me forever to slot people into the friends category, let alone the love interests category.
But anyway, I hope my art and words are affirming to my fellow arospecs.
And I hope alloromantics are inspired to learn more about the many wonderful identities included in the aromantic spectrum, and to learn from arospec people and our experiences. Who knows? Maybe you’re not as alloromantic as you think.
And I hope arophobes fuck right off.
The original form of this post debuted in Queersletter Issue #1.